Updated: Feb 8
Welcome to our first "official blog"!
If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you’ve registered for our 5-day IAM Quotient™ Journal Experience (and if you aren’t, it’s not too late to join us. Click Here .) The first step in this journey is revisiting our relationship with our parents as a foundational point of our conditioning, and how it affects our personal and professional lives.
Maybe you’ve been cruising through your life and business, but there is one piece of the puzzle that doesn’t quite click. Or perhaps it feels like there’s an invisible cap to the level of success you can attain? Maybe you appear to have it all together, looking good for the gram, but at home you’re crying yourself to sleep at night, due to the empty and anxious void in your heart. Trust, you are not alone!
Our external pains are merely a manifestation of what is happening within. So many of us are walking around with trauma from our childhood… inherited ancestral trauma from generations past…and, of course, the collective trauma we are all constantly drudging through in the world we live in today. It’s ALL TOO MUCH.
And though we live in a culture that teaches us to keep hustling and grinding it out… The truth is most of us are running on empty. We’ve tried all of the courses, read all of the self-help books, jumped on every self-care, marketing and business challenge, and though inspiring, the tedious spiral of hard work is not producing what God has promised.
Would you believe me if I told you that there was a better way?
It is possible to build a life and business of abundance and significance.
One where, instead of working ourselves to death, we enter into the rest and grace of God, where we get to operate our lives out of the purpose and intention of our creation.
The best way to do this though, is to pause and reflect. Which is why we require all of our clients to start at their genesis. It’s the foundation upon which all else is built.
I had my fair share of running on empty. Years ago, as I was living and working, what I thought was my dream. My days consisted of tv and radio interviews, panel discussions, mid-day lunch meetings, flights to other cities for events, and evenings networking with high profile executives.
Sounds fabulous, doesn’t it? I spent most of my days and nights, with suppressed tears, wallowing in self-doubt, imposter syndrome, suicidal thoughts, and deep feelings of unworthiness.
In 2017, It all came crashing down, when I had a major nervous breakdown, which I now call a breakthrough. All of my hard work, team no-sleep, and pseudo-success came to an end, when EMT’s collected my collapsed body from the pavement, rushing me to the hospital.
My breakthrough caused me to realize that my addiction to achievement and workaholic mentality was really a masking of the deep seeded mindset of rejection I had from my father and his other family. Along with a perpetual belief that my love, value, and worth, came only from what I could produce, from seeing my mother sacrifice her life’s work to a toxic corporate system, with very minimal rewarding benefits.
Through faith, journaling, my community, and therapy I diligently was able to transform my anger. I was able to take responsibility for showing up as a wounded child in survival mode. And I slowly (still am) learned to trust that I can show up fully as my worthy, loved, and affirmed self. I am fearfully and wonderfully made, and there is nothing I have to do to be validated and loved.
When I started living out of that truth, my world shifted. I shed the limiting belief that “if I accomplish this, then I will be truly loved.” The critical voice of: “See me, see me!” stopped. And I retired from the trauma response of burying myself in work and staying busy to avoid my feelings.
Now I can thank my parents for their essential life lessons, I can release them from any unhealthy expectations I hold as unforgiveness, and I take the torch to co-create my reality with my heavenly Father. I say yes to what fuels my spirit, and no to what drains me. I don’t work for money. I get to enter God’s abundant grace, following His vision for me, be of service, live with passion, and offer all of that to the world, AND be abundantly compensated for offering ME. And so can YOU!
"Our lives and businesses will only grow as far as our deepest wounds."
If we don’t reflect on where we have been, it is very difficult to have a clear vision on where we are going. You may think you are leading a life of significance, but you may be unconsciously replaying your childhood wounds. By analyzing your relationship with both of your parents, you can transform your ability to grow wealth, walk in your God-given identity, and have life abundantly.
All things are possible to them that believe ~ Mark 9:23
Will you join me on this journey?